06/13/2023
I like being married now, but I didn’t always think that it would be for me. I came of age during the push for legalization of gay marriage when all other rights were being sidelined for an arguably assimilationist goal. So, it was easy to think that gay marriage was not for q***r people.
In his 2015 essay, "A Modest Proposal", David Sedaris posits that,
“The battle for gay marriage was, in essence, the fight to be as square as straight people, to say things like “My husband tells me that the new Spicy Chipotle Burger they’ve got at Bennigan’s is awesome,” and “Here it is, Valentine’s Day less than a week behind us, and already my wife is flying our Easter flag!””
So maybe marriage makes us basic. But does it make us wealthy? I’m not so sure.
As Sedaris realizes later in his essay, he and Hugh have a huge upside if they marry—but only because they are multi-millionaires who could benefit from the unlimited ability to leave assets to their spouse tax-free.
How much of a privilege is it anyways? To be honest, the financial upside is a little spotty. If you are in a couple and ambivalent about marriage, blink and you might miss the benefits.
But there are a few benefits of marriage worth mentioning. Let’s explore it together.
If you are in a couple and ambivalent about marriage, blink and you might miss the benefits. But there are a few benefits worth mentioning.