04/09/2021
Email Boundaries
I was speaking with a teacher friend the other day who was expressing frustration with the way her school is managing online learning. Of all her struggles, the one that stuck out to me the most was her feeling of obligation to respond to every email the moment she receives the notification. This made my insides recoil.
As a business owner who works from home (or anywhere), I have a lot of flexibility and control when it comes to establishing the framework of how my business runs. I can choose my working hours. I can choose who to work with. And most importantly (for this post at least), I can choose how and when to respond to people. I don’t mean that cavalierly. Certainly, if I don’t respond to people within a reasonable amount of time there could be myriad problems. However, working within an established framework that clearly delineates my boundaries not only alleviates the stress of constantly responding to emails, but it also makes my work time more focused and productive. And even if you don’t find yourself with as much flexibility and control as I have, you can make improvements to your habits surrounding email.
Try asking yourself the following questions:
1. Why do I feel the need to respond immediately?
Did someone tell you that an immediate response was necessary? Do you think it makes you a good employee? When was the last time you heard about someone getting a raise because they were the fastest at responding to emails?
2. What would happen if I didn’t respond immediately?
Seriously, if you responded within 24 hrs vs. 24 seconds, what would happen? When you send an email do you sit around and stare at the screen waiting for a response? Probably not. What would really happen?
3. What can I reasonably do to fix this situation?
Can you talk to your boss about a 24hr or even (gasp!) 48hr turnaround time? Can you set up automatic responses to certain email addresses that say you’ll respond within 24hrs? Can you simply set boundaries, stick to them consistently, and see how others respond?
Go ahead and give this a try. If you’ve done something like this in the past, how did it go? What worked and what didn’t? I’d love to hear.