Robert D. Bordett, CFP, CDFA

06/11/2025

Looking forward to Bill Eddys talk on June 18

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𝗔𝗣𝗙𝗠'𝗦 𝗝𝘂𝗻𝗲 𝗪𝗲𝗯𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗿: 𝟭𝟮 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗴𝗺 𝗦𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗛𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗰𝘁 𝗠𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗕𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗘𝗱𝗱𝘆

High conflict disputes are different from other conflicts. They often involve one or more individuals with a pattern of high-conflict behavior, and are characterized by all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, extreme behavior, and preoccupation with blaming others.

Bill Eddy will explain some of the paradigm shifts necessary for dealing with high-conflict cases, to manage the process by bringing out the parties’ thinking skills rather than their reactive behavior, using a method called New Ways for Mediation®.

In particular, Bill wwill discuss how this method helps the parties ask questions (instead of making demands), make their own agenda (with mediator assistance), make proposals and ask respectful questions about the other’s proposals (with mediator assistance), and make their final decisions (with mediator assistance).

Ultimately, this approach structures the parties for success and keeps them focused on problem-solving solutions and away from venting, re-working the past, extreme demands, rigid positions, and other self-defeating behaviors. The skills for mediators in doing this are simple and less stressful than when using more traditional mediation skills. With this new method, the mediator serves primarily as a guide in the parties’ use of their own skills, and as a source of empathy and information throughout the process.

𝗗𝗔𝗧𝗘:Wednesday, June 18, 2025

𝗧𝗜𝗠𝗘: 12:00 Noon – 1:30 PM Eastern (9:00-10:30 AM Pacific)

𝗖𝗢𝗦𝗧: Free for APFM Members, $50 for Non-Members.

𝗧𝗢 𝗥𝗘𝗚𝗜𝗦𝗧𝗘𝗥: https://lnkd.in/d93WGJBy

10/22/2019

and are adaptable to any situation — even if the parties can’t be in the same room as each other. http://www.u2agree.com/pg64.cfm

09/18/2019

Creating a budget is hard work — but it can make your divorce go more smoothly. http://www.u2agree.com/pg63.cfm

08/15/2019

As society becomes more enlightened to the needs of children, are becoming more complex. http://www.u2agree.com/pg62.cfm

07/30/2019

In this post, I illustrate how having a can change everything. https://bit.ly/330INfs

04/24/2019

Your most important asset deserves your utmost attention.

A Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Bob Bordett has long helped couples, families and businesses make sound financial decisions through Alternative Dispute Resolution methods. Bob serves in the capacity of financial neutral and is a Registered Mediator and Register...

03/28/2019

In this guest blog, Dr. Howard Drutman and Marsha Schectman, LCSW, provided much-needed guidance for the parents of kids with special needs.

A Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Bob Bordett has long helped couples, families and businesses make sound financial decisions through Alternative Dispute Resolution methods. Bob serves in the capacity of financial neutral and is a Registered Mediator and Register...

02/21/2019

A malware program is being distributed to unsuspecting by way of fake emails from the IRS.

A Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Bob Bordett has long helped couples, families and businesses make sound financial decisions through Alternative Dispute Resolution methods. Bob serves in the capacity of financial neutral and is a Registered Mediator and Register...

12/28/2018

Changes are coming in 2019, so be sure to see a tax professional like a CDFA before the end of the year.

http://www.u2agree.com/pg57.cfm

12/12/2018

There are many loose ends that need to come together before you pay your yearly dues to Uncle Sam. http://www.u2agree.com/pg56.cfm