14/05/2026
Block, delete, and carry on: My tips for dealing with bullies.
Today is Pink Shirt Day. You will see a lot of be kind posts, but if you have ever been the target of a bully, you know kindness alone does not always stop them.
I have seen it in kitchens, on shop floors and in offices. It is usually the quiet undermining, the credit stealing, or the victim act they play when called out. It is exhausting and designed to make you feel alone.
Here is how I handle it:
Get everything in writing. In business, bullies love misremembering conversations. Follow up chats with an email immediately. No receipts, no proof.
Stop giving them a reaction. They want you flustered because it gives them control. Stay factual and boring. Without an emotional win, they move on.
Cut them out and stay visible. Use the block button. You do not owe anyone a seat at your table. Keep your good people close so the bully cannot isolate you.
Do not play their game. They will try to provoke you then play the victim. Do not stoop to their level. If you refuse the drama, they usually trip over themselves.
Finally, stand up for your coworkers and those around you.
Pink Shirt Day is a great reminder, but real change comes from a culture where people feel safe. Do not just wear a shirt, make a change.
P.S. I should have ironed the shirt... 🙃