06/03/2026
Confidence in speaking is wildly misunderstood.
People think it comes from encouragement.
More praise, �More reassurance,�More “You were amazing!”�
But that’s not where confidence is built.
Here’s the trap:
When every opinion has equal authority,�your confidence becomes a public voting system.
And the most anxious voice in the room wins.�
Great speakers don’t become confident because everyone loved them.
They become confident because they care more about what they have to say than vanity metrics. �And they develop discernment.
They learn:
* whose feedback sharpens their craft
* whose feedback simply reflects personal taste
* and whose feedback should go straight into toxic waste bin
Because speaking is a performance.�But not every person in the audience gets to be the director.
Choose your directors wisely.
If your work requires you to stand up, speak up, and actually move people -this is exactly the territory I work in.
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