06/03/2026
The first set of figures presented in a divorce often sets the tone for everything that follows.
And in high net worth divorces, it is not unusual for him to present them first.
Assets are listed. Numbers are attached. Sometimes certain assets are discounted or described as belonging to a different time.
Once those figures are in the room, it can feel surprisingly difficult to move away from them.
Especially when questioning them risks sounding adversarial or grabby.
This is where the conversation needs to shift.
Not to arguing about what should or should not be included.
But simply to establishing what exists.
In my experience, the easiest way to do that is by keeping the conversation neutral and pointing to the process itself.
Saying something as simple as, “My solicitor, mediator or financial adviser says we cannot move forward until we have the full picture.”
Because you cannot have a fair discussion about what belongs on the table until you know everything that exists.
