04/30/2026
This has been a (heartbreaking and infuriating) tough week with a couple of my free consults. First, I’m SO proud ❤️ of everyone that is brave enough to book and show up to talk about their financial situation on my Free Consults.
I’ve spoken to women in relationships where they do not have clarity, autonomy, or control over money and decisions. And beyond just being “taken care of” by their partner, it CAN actually be much more serious.
Nobody wants to admit it because it’s a scary word, but it IS financial ABUSE. 🚨 It’s okay if this makes you a bit uncomfortable. I’m here to help.
In fact, with two ladies this week I think I was the first person they actually discussed this with. Getting it out in the open. Hoping for getting on the same page with their partners. When thy ACTUALLY said it out loud, they recognized it sounded crazy. I’m so glad I could talk it through with them. ❤️
In case you’re wondering, a few red flags to watch for, just in case you or a friend may be at risk:
⚠️You’re kept in the dark about the “Big Picture” of your family finances. No passwords or logins, unclear on retirement savings, taxes, or debt. Being told “trust me, I’ll take care of it,” is not a partnership.
⚠️You have to ask permission to spend money, or justify it. Especially if it’s for basics like groceries. Worse if your partner doesn’t have the same considerations for you.
⚠️Your career growth feels threatening to your partner. Especially if you earn more. Or if you’re a stay at home parent feeling trapped.
⚠️ The household money is split by category, with the mental load of “running the household and kid stuff” is all on you, while your partner manages stable bills like the mortgage.
⚠️ You take on joint or partner debt because your credit score is better. Worse if you’re unaware of secret debt.
⚠️ You feel pressured to sign investing, legal or loan documents you don’t understand.
⚠️Money is used as a tool for punishment.
If they “cut you off” or withhold funds if they’re unhappy with you.
I see people in very vulnerable positions. Please reach out if you feel at risk. I’m a safe place to talk it through. ❤️ And give you some options for next steps.