13/10/2026
๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ข๐ฆ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ๐๐๐ง... ๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐ก๐ ๐ฐ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ๐ฒ... ๐คฃ
Many of my friends asked me, โHow did Hao Rui learn about Halloween parties?โ
Wellโฆ I dug the hole and jumped into it myself. ๐
Whenever a festive season approaches, I buy books related to it and read them with him, be it Chinese New Year, birthdays, Christmas, Halloweenโฆ
Before we travel, I also introduce books about aeroplanes, airports, farms or animals, depending on what we might encounter during the trip.
My intention is simple: when he sees the real thing, he can connect it to something we have read together.
An airport becomes more than a place we pass through. An animal becomes more than a picture on a page. He recognises something familiar, gets excited and starts asking questions.
Iโve noticed that when learning connects to an experience, it becomes more enjoyable for him, and easier to remember.
Of course, sometimes he remembers the party part a little too well. ๐คฃ
This has also made me reflect on the mentoring process.
When someone is exploring a career, we can explain the role, describe the opportunities and share everything we think they should know. Yet they may still struggle to picture themselves doing the work.
Sometimes, they need an experience to connect the dots.
A real conversation. An opportunity to observe. A small task to try, with someone beside them to guide them and reflect afterwards.
In family wealth planning, for example, listening to a clientโs concerns can bring meaning to concepts that previously felt abstract. You begin to understand why a question matters, why a family hesitates, and how much responsibility comes with their trust.
During the process, Iโm learning that what feels obvious to me may be completely unfamiliar to someone else.
The experience can help me guide them, and I also need the patience to let them discover, ask and make sense of things at their own pace.
Perhaps that is part of growing wiser: learning how to make our experience useful to another person.