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A FAMILY DIVIDED:- The Tale Of Ogedengbe's Family.Long ago in the bustling village of Okukpo where the red earth clung t...
18/08/2025

A FAMILY DIVIDED:
- The Tale Of Ogedengbe's Family.

Long ago in the bustling village of Okukpo where the red earth clung to people’s feet like a jealous lover, lived the Ogedengbe family. They were known for two things: their wealth of yam barns and their tongues sharper than the village blacksmith’s blade.

The patriarch, Pa Ogedengbe, had two wives—Mama Sade and Mama Efe. To outsiders, their compound looked like a kingdom of plenty, with goats, chickens, and children running about. But inside, it was a battlefield disguised as a homestead.

The wives competed over everything. If Mama Sade cooked pounded yam with egusi soup, Mama Efe would cook amala with ogbono and announce to everyone, “Those who have teeth should eat real food; those who don’t can manage pounded yam.”

Pa Ogedengbe, instead of settling matters, only fanned the quarrels. When he ate at Mama Sade’s hut, he would praise her cooking so loudly that Mama Efe could hear from across the yard. When he slept at Mama Efe’s, he would laugh extra hard at her jokes, as if to say, “See, this is the wife that makes me happy.”

Soon, the children inherited the quarrels like an unwanted heirloom. Sade’s children refused to share water with Efe’s children, and Efe’s children would deliberately chase Sade’s goats into the cassava farm just to watch them get flogged.

One day, during the annual yam festival, the family’s madness reached its peak. Pa Ogedengbe had promised both wives that their own children would present the sacred yam to the chief. Neither wife would back down.

So, when the festival day came, two different children arrived at the palace with two different yams. The whole village burst into laughter. One yam was so large it took two boys to carry, while the other yam looked like it had survived a famine. The chief, shaking his head, said,
“Is this the Ogedengbe family or a comedy troupe?”

But shame turned to rage back at home. Mama Sade accused Mama Efe of bewitching her yam, and Mama Efe swore that Mama Sade’s children had been born to disgrace.

That night, poison found its way into food, charms were buried under doorsteps, and secret trips to the village dibia became as frequent as trips to the stream. Each family member plotted against the other, until one fateful moonlit evening, Pa Ogedengbe himself was found foaming at the mouth after eating from the communal pot of stew.

The tragedy didn’t stop there. Soon, one by one, the mothers, the elder sons, and even the daughters-in-law followed him to the ancestors, each falling victim to the very traps they had set for one another.

The villagers, though saddened, could not help but laugh. One old man even remarked,
“The Ogedengbes have turned themselves into the entertainment of the gods. Who else dies by eating their own poison?”

But the story didn’t end with death. The children who survived inherited not only the barns of yam but also the burning hatred. Sade’s grandchildren refused to attend the weddings of Efe’s grandchildren. They fought over land so much that the village square became their courtroom.

And when one branch of the family tried to raise a new house, the other would hire masquerades to scatter the building materials. What their parents began in envy, the children perfected in betrayal.

Years later, the once-mighty Ogedengbe compound was reduced to ruins. Strangers lived where their barns once stood, and travelers used the family’s name as a proverb:

“When brothers turn to enemies, even their shadows refuse to walk together.”

And yet, in the evenings, the villagers would gather under the iroko tree, retelling the Ogedengbe story with chuckles. For though it was a tragedy, it was also comedy—the kind only life could write.

Tales By Moonlight.

"THE WICKED MOTHER-IN-LAW"- A Must Read For Every Girl Child.In the village of Okhuo, where palm wine flowed freer than ...
18/08/2025

"THE WICKED MOTHER-IN-LAW"
- A Must Read For Every Girl Child.

In the village of Okhuo, where palm wine flowed freer than wisdom, young Efe had just married Ovbokhan, the most handsome hunter in the land. But every marriage has a third wheel, and in Efe’s case, it was her mother-in-law, Mama Uyi, a woman whose tongue could peel yam without a knife.

From the first day, Mama Uyi declared:
“Efe, you cannot cook! You burn yam like a witch testing fire!”

When Efe swept the compound, Mama Uyi shook her head.
“Hmm, see how the broom dances like it has no father’s house.”

She even whispered lies to Ovbokhan:
“Your wife sleeps till the c**k crows twice! Soon goats will laugh at our family!”

But Efe was not foolish. She knew that a patient woman can trap even the fastest lizard. So, she smiled through every insult, humming songs while grinding pepper, laughing when Mama Uyi hid the firewood, and even dancing when her soup was secretly salted twice.

One day, the village council announced a great cooking contest. Mama Uyi, confident that Efe would disgrace herself, pushed her forward.
“Yes! Let her cook, so the whole village can know what suffering my son eats!”

Efe prayed to her ancestors and cooked with all her heart. The aroma of her palm nut soup traveled faster than gossip. Hunters dropped their bows, children abandoned their marbles, and even the goats bleated as if begging for a taste.

When the elders tasted it, they shouted,
“This is no ordinary soup—this is soup that can end wars!”

Efe was crowned the best cook in the land. Ovbokhan lifted her high before everyone, declaring,
“My wife is not only beautiful, she is the pride of Okhuo!”

Mama Uyi, red-faced like ripe palm fruit, tried to protest, but the villagers only laughed. From that day, whenever she opened her mouth to insult Efe, people replied,
“Shh! Respect the Queen of Soup!”

And so, Efe turned mockery into music, proving that patience and laughter can silence even the sharpest mother-in-law.

Tales By Moonlight From "The Village Square".

MY FIRST LOVE FLOWER REJECTED:- More than two decades ago.Immediately I entered her room where she and her friend were s...
22/04/2025

MY FIRST LOVE FLOWER REJECTED:

- More than two decades ago.

Immediately I entered her room where she and her friend were sitting on a double seater, I offered her a flower as an expression of my deep love for her. She collected it but I sensed something with her body language but I couldn't tell exactly.

About an hour later, I asked to take my leave. She saw me off to the front door and we said goodbyes.

Just less than two buildings away, I realized I left my ear pod on the chair on which I sat. I turned back to go and collected it.

"Let me go and throw this flower away outside. He should go to India to give flowers to women there. Not in Nigeria. Na flower I go chop?"

Those were her words as she walked down the passage towards the front door where I stood shocked. She immediately freezed holding the flower when she realized that I was the one standing there.

I just walked past her to her room and collected my ear pod. I didn't forget to snatched my pink flower from her hand on my way out. I never looked back.

Why are the symbols for expression of our love different in our various societies?
Would you appreciate a flower if given to you as expression of love? Let me know in the comment section.

NIGERIAN GIRLS AND RITUAL KILLINGS:With the way skit makers are exposing the ease with which our ladies both young and o...
04/03/2025

NIGERIAN GIRLS AND RITUAL KILLINGS:

With the way skit makers are exposing the ease with which our ladies both young and old could be lured to do anything for money has got me thinking.

From following random men even at the middle of nights to unknown locations, entering strange cars to have a talk with money displayed, agreeing to go to a hotel room with a total stranger, and even ready to go down anywhere.

Is it that these women or girls don't hear about the kidnapping or ritual killings or know what is happening in our society?

Is it their desperation to get money and damning the consequences?

Is it that they know the possible negative outcomes but are willing to ignore them and take the risk anyway?

Is it really worth the risk of possibly losing their life or being rendered worthless, useless in life afterwards?

It is very clear while ritual killings are easy for the perpetrators. Getting their victims who are mostly girls and women is very easy because they are easily attracted with money.

I can only imagine a sane person ready to go anywhere with a total stranger to a God knows where. Anything could happen there and the next thing you hear from the news is that someone is missing.

It is high time our women learnt to be independent, leave the streets and put an end to presenting themselves as objects for ritual sacrifices.

Life is precious and sweet. Let's be careful and live a responsible life.

11/02/2025

The life you want won't be handed to you. It's your responsibility.
Go and earn it.

WHY ARE MEN ALWAYS ABANDONED IN THEIR OLD AGE?Someone gave the reasons that it is because the man was too strict on the ...
06/02/2025

WHY ARE MEN ALWAYS ABANDONED IN THEIR OLD AGE?

Someone gave the reasons that it is because the man was too strict on the children and didn't show enough love by spending more time with them. Somebody even said it is because this wife shew more understanding with the children. With that I think she meant that the woman tolerated them and allowed their indulgences.

My surprise is that people forget that if not for the discipline and strictness of the Father, the children who have now become loyal to their mother would not be responsible enough to become successful?

The father provided food, accommodation, cash, protection and many more for everyone to grow up yet they gang up to claim he did not support them because he tried to mold them to become responsible in life. They end up tagging him a wicked man instead of being grateful that he was there to keep them on the right path through discipline.

Women often show that they love their children more by staying aback while the father mold the children through discipline and strictness. They would later use this against him with the help of their mother who indirectly tells them that she loves them more by tolerating their wrong characters and permissiveness.

But when it comes to single parenting or single motherhood, you see these women running up and down looking for a man figure who would help them discipline, mold their wayward or stubborn children. A feature they would never appreciate if their biological father is there to administer it.

I think the question is why do women emotionally lobby for the loyalty of their children making their father the scape goat, the evil, bad person. The answer is simple. So that she gets or the financial, emotional support from the children and makes their father live at her mercy. She wants to have all of them under her control. Women naturally are power seekers and becomes power drunk once they have it.

Anyways, the more blame would go to the men who fall into this difficulty through emotional blackmail and lack of proper and adequate plans for their future. Men should put things on ground to sustain them when they grow old because the reality of life would hit you in an unexpected way. Only few fortunate ones get the crumbs from their wife's table in their old age.

WHEN YOU ARE NO LONGER RELEVANT TO THEM:Those you sacrificed your time, money and energy for would one day ask you what ...
05/02/2025

WHEN YOU ARE NO LONGER RELEVANT TO THEM:

Those you sacrificed your time, money and energy for would one day ask you what you did with your money.

They would tell you they never asked for or forced you to do the help you did for them. They would also ask you if what you did hasn't been done before or even better.

Be prepared for this shocker! It is the reality of life.

This situation comes up when you are no longer financially or physically strong or when you lose your means of livelihood. It comes when you can no longer do the things you do before or you don't have enough time to spare as before. It could also be that you don't throw money around like you used to do before.

These set of people are no longer benefitting from you as usual. The most painful part of this is that this usually comes from your family members. It could as well come from friends or anyone you have always sacrificed for.

Do not be disappointed. Pick yourself up and work out ways to get back to your feet. It is your trying time and also a way for nature to expose to you those who love you genuinely and those who are attached to you because of what they benefit from you.

Keep this in mind because it is the key that would direct your operations in your next phase of life.

Having Known the above, be wise and have a plan for your future now that you are strong and relevant because no one really cares. Help others but with caution. Do not try to impress anyone by spending all you have on them or your earnings recklessly.

24/10/2024

A lot of people are going to bed this night with empty stomach. That's the reality of life. Let's stop all this fake life of everything is fine whereas nothing is fine.

16/10/2024

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These are business you can do anytime and anywhere and be successful because they are needed by almost any body.

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